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Welcome:

 

__________ and __________ have not come here tonight to make a solemn promise or to exchange a sacred vow.

 

__________ and __________ have come here to make public their love for each other; to give noticement to their truth; to declare their choice to live and partner and grow together—out loud and in your presence, out of their desire that we will all come to feel a very real and intimate part of their decision, and thus make it even more powerful.

 

They’ve also come here tonight in the further hope that their ritual of bonding will help bring us all closer together.  If you are here tonight with a spouse or a partner, let this ceremony be a reminder—a rededication of your own loving bond.

 

 

Opening:

 

Know now, before you go further, that since your lives have crossed in this life you have formed ties between each other.  As you seek to enter this state of matrimony you should strive to make real the ideals which give meaning to both this ceremony and the institution of marriage.

 

With full awareness, know that within this circle you are not only declaring your intent to be handfasted before your friends and family, but you speak that intent also to your creative higher powers.

 

The promises made today and the ties that are bound here greatly strengthen your union; they will cross the years and lives of each soul’s growth.

 

Do you still seek to enter this ceremony?

 

__________ and _______ together:  Yes, we seek to enter

 

Charge to the Couple:

 

__________ and __________, marriage is the most important of all earthly relationships.  It should be entered into reverently, thoughtfully and with full understanding of its sacred nature.  Your marriage must stand by the strength of your love and the power of faith in each other and in God.  Just as two threads woven in opposite direction form a beautiful tapestry, so to your two lives when merged together will make a beautiful marriage.  It is a mutual enrichment; a mingling of two personalities which diminishes neither, and enhances both.  “Marriage is a fusion of two hearts, the union of two lives, the coming together of two tributaries, which after being united in marriage, will flow in the same channel in the same direction.  To make your relationship work will take love.  This is the core of your marriage and why you are here today.  It will take trust, to know in your hearts that you truly want the best for each other.  It will take dedication, to stay open and honest with one another-and to learn and grow together.  It will take faith, to go forward together without knowing exactly what the future brings.  And it will take commitment, to hold true to the journey you both promise tonight to share together. An intimate and secure relationship is not based solely on promises, but also on trust, respect, faithfulness and the ability to forgive.  A lasting marriage is based on all of these, bound together by love.

 

Transformation Of All That’s Come Before:

 

Each relationship brings with it both positive and negative emotions.  __________ and __________ have expressed the wish that this ceremony __________ the beginning of a new relationship, a new, and more deeply profound love both for themselves and for their families. 

 

At this time, we will seek to transform all that has come before by blessing all of the positive aspects of this union and by releasing forever all negative feelings and emotions that have come before this moment.  Smoke has been used traditionally to cleanse and to announce transformation—from the cleansing ceremonies of Native American tradition to the transformation of the Church of one pope to another.

 

On each slip of paper in this ______, is a simple phrase, “I bless all the positive aspects of this relationship and I release forever all negative feelings and emotions that have come before this moment that I may have toward __________, __________ or their relationship”.

 

I will ask each of you in turn to step forward and light a slip and to let the smoke represent the blessing and release of all that has come before.

 

Reading:                                                                     Lucas

 

Marriage is love walking hand in hand together. It’s laughing with each other about silly little things and learning to discuss big things with care and tenderness.  In marriage, love is trusting each other when you’re apart.  It’s getting over disappointment and hurts, knowing that these are present in all relationships.  It’s the realization that there is no one else in this world that you would rather be with than the one you are married to.  It’s thinking of new things to do together; it’s growing old together.  Marriage is being in love for the rest of your life.

 

Vows:

 

Handfasting is an ancient Celtic tradition of uniting two souls together in the path of life.   Each cord represents an aspect of not only their physical lives together but their spiritual journey together as well.

 

__________ and __________, I bid you look into each other’s eyes.

 

__________, Will you cause her pain?

I may

 

Is that your intent?

No

 

__________, Will you cause him pain?

I may

 

Is that your intent?

No

 

__________ and __________, Will you share each other’s pain and seek to ease it?

We will

 

And so the binding is made.  Join your hands. *****First cord—red****

 

__________, Will you share his laughter?

Yes

 

__________,  Will  you share her laughter?

Yes

 

__________ and __________, Will both of you look for the brightness in life and the positive in each other?  Will you respect each other’s backgrounds and traditions?

We will

 

And so the binding is made. ***Second cord—orange****

 

__________, Will you burden her?

I may

 

Is that your intent?

No

 

__________, Will you burden him?

I may

 

Is that your intent?

No

 

__________ and __________, Will you share the burdens of each so that your spirits may grow in this union?

We will

 

And so the binding is made.  ***Third cord—yellow***

 

__________, Will you share his dreams?

Yes

 

__________, Will you share her dreams?

Yes

 

__________ and __________, Will you dream together to create new realities and hopes and will you fairly and with an open heart discuss each other’s concerns and needs?

We will

 

And so the binding is made.  ****Fourth cord---green***

 

__________, Will you cause her anger?

I may

Is that your intent?

No

 

__________, Will you cause him anger?

 I may

 Is that your intent?

No

 

__________ and __________, Will you take the heat of anger and use it to temper the strength of this union?

We will

 

And so the binding is made.  ***Fifth cord---blue****

 

__________, Will you honor him?

I will

 

__________, Will you honor her?

I will

 

__________ and __________, Will you sustain the meaning of your words through your actions and will you never give cause to break that honor?

We will

 

And so the binding is made.  ***Sixth cord—indigo****

 

__________, Do you choose to grant __________’s request that you be his wife?

I do

 

__________, Do you choose to grant __________’s request that you be her husband?

I do

 

***Tie all cords together with purple****

 

The knots of this binding are not formed by these cords but instead by your vows.  Either of you may drop the cords, for as always, you hold in your own hands the making or breaking of this union.

 

Reading:                                                                     Sophia

 

Remember, anything beautiful that you have, came from God.  In the beginning, God gave us our free will and our identity to walk this earth. Don’t ever try to change each other, because if you do, you will lose exactly what you fell in love with. So, each day try to find one more thing that is beautiful in your mate and each day know that the next day will be more beautiful than the one before.  As long as you are doing this, you are seeking beauty, joy, and love in each other.

 

 

Family Unity Candle:

 

It is only out of family that new families emerge. Today the family candles that burn in our midst symbolize your separate lives and these two families.  __________ and __________ come to this moment from these two families, and the new emerges from the old. ..  the present from the past.  I ask that each of you take one of the lit candles and that together you light the center candle.  Lighting the center candle represents that your two lives are now joined as one, and represents the joining together of your two families as one.  As they move together, they form a new light, the light of their union, it burns separately but not alone.  From now on, your thoughts shall be for each other rather than for your individual selves.  Your joys and sorrows shall be shared alike.  As __________ and __________ bring their lives together, they bring two families together as one.  Ashleigh, Sophia and Lucas bring their support and love to this marriage with the light of their candles.

 

Reading:                                                         Ashleigh

 

The key to love is understanding… The ability to comprehend not only the spoken word but those unspoken gestures, the little things that say so much by themselves.

 

The key to love is forgiveness—To accept each others faults and pardon mistakes, without forgetting, but with remembering what you learn from them.

 

The key to love is sharing—facing your good fortunes as well as the bad, together; both conquering problems, forever searching for ways to intensify your happiness.

 

The key to love is giving—Without thought of return, but with hope of just a simple smile, and by giving in but never giving up.

 

The key to love is respect—Realizing that you are two separate people, with different ideas; that you don’t belong to each other, that you belong with each other, and share a mutual bond.

 

The key to love is inside us all---It takes time and patience to unlock all the ingredients that will take you to its threshold; it is the continual learning process that demands a lot of work--but the rewards are more than worth the effort--and that is the key to love.

 

Ring Ceremony:

 

The ring, a circle, is one of nature’s simplest forms.  The arc of the rainbow, the halo of the moon and the smallest of raindrops simulate the circle.  Even when a stone is cast upon a pond, it generates waves in ever expanding circles.  Consider this marriage as being two stones striking the water simultaneously.  The ensuing waves interlock, and the growth of the enlarging circles show the combined energies of the lives of __________ and __________.  The interlocking of these two lives will be symbolized in the exchange of rings.

 

__________, Repeat after me>

 

__________, I give you this ring as a sign of my devotion and love and with my heart I promise to you all that I am and all that I will become.

 

__________  Repeat after me

 

__________, I give you this ring as I give you myself.  It is a circle without end.  Such is my love for you.

 

Prayer of St. Francis                                                 Frank Phelan

 

Lord, make us instruments of your peace.

Where there is hatred, let us sow love;

Where there is injury, pardon;

Where there is discord, union;

Where there is doubt, faith;

Where there is despair, hope;

Where there is darkness, light;

Where there is sadness, joy;

O Divine Master, Grant that we may not so much seek

To be consoled as to console,

To be understood as to understand,

To be loved as to love.

For it is in giving that we receive;

It is in pardoning that we are pardoned;

And it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.

Amen.

 

Pronouncement:

 

__________ and __________ you have expressed your love to one another through the commitment and promises you have just made.  It is with these in mind that I pronounce you husband and wife.

 

Rose Ceremony:

 

__________ and __________ your gift to each other for your wedding today has been your wedding rings—which shall always be an outward demonstration of your vows of love and respect; and a public showing of your commitment to each other.  You now have the most honorable title that may exist between a man and a woman—the title of “husband” and “wife”.  In the elegant language of flowers, red roses are a symbol of love, the giving of a single red rose is a clear and unmistakable way of saying the words “I love you”.  For this reason it is fitting that the first gift you exchange as husband and wife would be the gift of a single red rose.

 

Please exchange your first gift as husband and wife.  You both have given and received one of the most valuable and precious gifts of life—one I hope you always remember—the gift of true and abiding love within the devotion of marriage.

 

In every marriage there are times when it is difficult to find the right words, and the ones we love the most are the ones we can most easily hurt.  There are times when it may be difficult to say “I’m sorry” or “I forgive you” or “I need you or “I’m hurting”.  __________ and __________ I would ask that wherever you make your home, that you choose a special location.  And at those times when words fail, that you leave a red rose at that spot you have both selected—a rose that will say what matters more than all other words…” I still love you”; the other should accept this rose for the words that cannot be found, and remember the love and hope that you both have shared today.

 

__________ and __________, you may seal your promises with a kiss.

 

Benediction:               Irish Blessing                         Frank Phelan

 

May the road rise to meet you,

May the wind be always at your back.

May the sun shine warm upon your face,

The rains fall soft upon your fields.

And until we meet again,

May God hold you in the palm of his hand.

May green be the grass you walk on

May blue be the skies above you,

May pure be the joys that surround you,

May true be the hearts that love you

May God be with you and bless you;

May you see your children’s children.

May you be poor in misfortune, Rich in blessings,

May you know nothing but happiness

From this day forward.

 

Presentation:

 

It is with great pleasure that I present to you for the very first time—__________ and __________

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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